Culturally women in Africa have been restrained to the home front, made to believe her job is to take care of the home. Even when the African woman works, culture believes it should be minor buying and selling so she can have the time for her family.
How about fulfilling her dreams? When the man provides, does he provide fulfilment for her dreams and aspirations?
The world is evolving, changing this notion, breaking free from a lot of cultural beliefs. With the emergence of beautiful women like Ibukun Awosika, Tara Fela-Durotoye, Tolulope Demuren, Genevive Nnaji, Kate Henshaw, we know that it is totally possible to have a great career and be there for your kids.
Being married and having kids? Being single and having kids? All you need is a balance. You also need to know what it is you desire, find out what it will take to fulfil your dreams and walk in that path. This way, even when life hits you hard and throws you off balance, it will be easier to get you back on track as you already know what you want.
It is important to seek help when you need it, if you are married, seek help from your partner. You both might be trying to find a balance with work, being parents, settling bills and all that. Help cometh to those who seek it.
Baby sitters and caregivers can also help you care for your kid while you are at work. We are aware of recent happenings, where these kids are prone to sexual abuses and violence from their caregivers. It is important to thoroughly research the person you want in care of your kids, be it family or a stranger, to avoid future problems.
You do not also have to do everything yourself. If you have to clean, cook, these are things you can outsource if you are financially capable to do so.
We believe that being a great mother and a career woman is totally possible, it is easier said than done, right? But it is totally possible. We have seen a lot of women, popular or not, make it happen, in fact, a lot of women are still making it happen and their kids turn out great.
You can do it too. Strikeout the fear that it would not work, know what you want, do what you want, remain focused, strike a balance, outsource what you can and be available for your kids. You are a powerful woman!