Ha! That’s how you will give birth to all your children,” this was my mother’s reaction when I told her I opted for the Caesarean Section aka Caesarean delivery. My mother-in-law didn’t help matters, she started praying against it.
The two grandmas-to-be concluded without Koko’s permission that she would give birth like the biblical ‘Hebrew women’ (no cutting). You could guess those were ‘Iya aladura’ (prayers warrior) grandmas.
A C-section or Caesarean is a type of surgery used to deliver a baby. The baby is surgically removed through an incision in the mother’s abdomen and then a second incision in the uterus.
Cesarean deliveries are generally avoided before 39 weeks of pregnancy so the child has proper time to develop in the womb. Sometimes, however, complications arise and a cesarean delivery must be performed before 39 weeks.
Why do women opt for cesarean delivery?
Cesarean delivery is typically performed when complications from pregnancy make traditional vaginal birth difficult or put the mother or child at risk. Sometimes cesarean deliveries are planned early in the pregnancy, but they’re most often performed when complications arise during labour.
Some of the reasons include:
- baby has developmental conditions
- baby’s head is too big for the birth canal
- the baby is coming out feet first (breech birth)
- early pregnancy complications
- mother’s health problems, such as high blood pressure or unstable heart disease
- mother has active genital herpes that could be transmitted to the baby
- previous cesarean delivery
- problems with the umbilical cord
- reduced oxygen supply to the baby
- stalled labour
- the baby is coming out shoulder first (transverse labour) etc.
C-Section and myths
Koko opted for the C-Section route because she thinks she will be able to escape labour pain and the likes. This is false! Unknowingly to her that C-section has its risks too. Note, you’ll have a sensation, and research shows that there are higher risks with repeated C-sections.
Her mother says the vaginal birth method is ancient and safer. She further opines that Koko will always be ‘cut’. This is false! Although it is not common, it is also not impossible. A mother can have what is called vaginal birth after caesarean (VBAC).
Meanwhile, her mother-in-law frowns at it because according to her, women who take the c-section route are not strong enough, hence, the baby will not be connected to them like those who gave birth vaginally. Again, this is not close to the truth in any way, the bond between a mother and child is not dependent on which part the baby came out.
Her hubby secretly wants it for selfish motives. He agreed with his wife mostly because C-section reduces the likelihood of having vaginal prolapse, he thinks. Vaginal prolapse is a condition where the wall of the vaginal becomes lax. The reality is whether or not it is a C-section or vaginal birth; there are risks that this may happen.
Sex after a C-section
Most women need to wait at least six weeks before having sex after a C-section, or until their doctor or midwife says it is safe. They may also need to take a few precautions and make some adjustments to their sexual activities in the short term. Everyone’s recovery is different, and the pace may depend on whether the C-section was extensive or unplanned.