Having Sex on Your First Date

 

Everyone, especially the ladies have the exact picture of how they want their first date to go, while some have an idea on how the first date should normally end.

Though this is 2020, and it can be hard to deny some of the outdated rules surrounding sex and dating. Sex on your first date doesn’t mean you’re cheap. Wait until date #3 to have sex, make him work for it, this and that shit. Some people think you should wait to sleep with someone new until it’s been longer than a few hours than you’ve known them.

 

Having sex on the first date is something personal, some would say ‘what you are dating for if it’s not to find a new person to sleep with’ (Why don’t you have that shit on the first date).

 

The truth, sleeping with someone on the first date is not a bad thing, and you shouldn’t weigh the longevity of the relationship base on that alone. That said, there’s no pressure to have sex with someone on the first date. But if you’re feeling it, no one should judge you for getting yours. Why deny yourself the pleasure.

 

So if you’re wondering whether you should have sex on the first date, I’m going to stop you right there and remind you that you should do what feels good to you. There is no one “right” answer to sex on your first date. Having sex with someone on the first date is not a death sentence. It’s not a one-way ticket to hell, and it’s not a guaranteed relationship killer.

 

If you’re feeling the chemistry at the end of the night, go for it and screw what anyone else thinks. Exploring bedroom compatibility from the first date can help you determine whether you want to invest in a relationship with the person. There are no hard and fast rules here. It’s worth taking the time to explore your feelings about one-night stands before you’re in a situation where you could potentially have one.

The only warning before you hop into bed with him/her is to be clear on what you’re looking for (a relationship or casual sex?) so you can both make informed choices and be honest about your expectations.

 

An anonymous personal experience

I came to Lagos that year for a holiday at my cousin place, and there was this lady that works for him. My cousin was operating a phone booth business along the street where we lived.

The girl was not that fantastic, but she was sexy and mature than I was then.

Before I knew it, we became close, she started coming over to our house to drop phone unlike before and I do see her off regularly. It was so obvious to my cousin that we both love each other. Unlike me, I started seating with her sometimes at the phone booth (the real me won’t do that though.) I summoned the courage and ask her for a date, she agreed and we went out that same day at night. Though, at a close-by bar on our street (She also lives close to our house) Practically, we stared at each other for the whole night. What was on my mind was how I’m going to take her home to sex her not minding if my cousin was at home.

I told her my intentions for that night, which is sex with her. She agreed to that, and I was wow, I am going to have my first sex tonight (I was just 17 then), on our way home, she changed her mind. I was like damn it, what’s wrong with this lady.

She said I need to work for it! I need to work for it if I want to smash her pussy.

She said I have to seat with her the whole day at the phone booth before we can have sex. I was like, damn, but I do come over sometimes, but she said this time is different. We’ll call it working for what I want.

Though I got a consolation prize that night (she agreed I should suck her boobs outside the gate before she left)

 My submission; the lady had no issue with sex on that first date; I think she just wanted to know me better before having sex.

 

But before you agree to sex on your first date, you might need to consider;

Your safety, Safety Still Comes First

Safety should be a priority. Don’t sleep with someone who isn’t willing to disclose information about their sexual health status. There is a lot of STD flying around; you don’t want to risk it.

Been drunk; if you think the other partner is not at the right state of mind due to drunkenness, consider holding off until both parties are clear-headed enough to consent. You wouldn’t want anyone to accuse you of rape.

 

Does having sex on your first date impact your eligibility as a partner? No

This decision to have sex on your first is solely dependent on the individual, the circumstances around the meeting and the location.

 

Does sex on your first date Make Me a Slut? No

I hate to break it to you, but there are people in this world that will call you a slut.

Women will call you a bitch because they believe they have more standards and morals than you have. Men will call you a whore and so on

Slut-shaming is never okay. But it’s also never going away, never.

Understanding and acting upon your standard are much more rewarding than playing the role based on someone else’s expectations. 

 

Being confident in your decisions, you’ll be able to rise above the hateful comments because, at the end of the day, you were true to yourself.

Whether you’re searching for a long-term relationship or hunting for your next sexual encounter of the week, it will be a whole lot easier if you will do it with honesty.

Self-respect is one of those admirable things that attract people from miles away.

When the wine glasses are empty, the dinner bill has been paid, and you and your date are nervously chatting about what to do or where to go next, just do your thing. 

 

#StaySafe!